Tuesday, April 30, 2013

Scorpio + Leo = ???? Part II

Folks, this blog series could go as long as the Real Housewives of Atlanta reunion episodes. I left off with the break-up. Last night I found out from him that he messed around twice during the two months we dated. We agreed to be "exclusively dating" which meant no sex with anyone else. I, of course, was taken aback. I was then infuriated when I remembered that he proposed  that we take things up a notch to boyfriend status. His insecurities got the best of him but my intuition keep me from a broken heart. It is sad though that we as black gay men cannot seem to find ourselves, in general, to be loyal. There will always be someone cuter, smarter, taller, shorter (if you like them like me) and attractive in the world. We must learn to realize that when you have a good thing, keep it, it can possibly take you far and beyond your wildest dreams.

I had the pleasure to meet one of his friends who is graduating law school. He was the president of the student body of the law school. He is also openly gay and very much engaged to his fiancee. They will be getting married right after his graduates law school. They are young and black. If anything, that couple reminds me that there is hope. This situation I was in makes all gay men right now seem bleek but they are what seems to be a rare example, that it works if you try.

So consequently I have cut ties with him and wished him the best in life. The saying goes, "you don't miss a good thing till it's gone."

Monday, April 29, 2013

Scorpio + Leo = ????

Fellow bloggers, I have come out of the smoke again to write another blog about my recent set of dating. Ironically enough this person I was dating has read my blog and Twitter page to learn more about it, I guess that makes sense. Anyway after a couple of months of dating, we had a few minor issues. I think we both were compatible in theory but practicality was a huge learning curve, which we both made some adjustments. In the end, I feel that he was more emotionally invested in this than me. I feel like our initial issues of him nitpicking and keeping track of time and dates of when I screwed up was an issue but an obstacle that was being overcome. I did not appreciate that stuff was thrown back in my face that was irrelevant to our current disagreement. I've never dated and had this many differences in such a short period of time. I by the way was no means perfect in this time of dating. The topic of being boyfriend and
 boyfriend was brought up. He felt that he would be more "secure" if we moved on from "exclusively dating. I was not at that point emotionally after two months that I wanted to make that jump. That's the point of dating, getting to know someone and if you think you can see yourself long term with that person then go for it. This was my two month evaluation. Although he is a great catch, two months or more down the line I think our strong personalities would generate more disagreements, which is just not healthy.