Thursday, June 7, 2012

Gay Relationships - Number 2





I have decided to revisit this topic since it has been a while. Wait let me be honest. I am revisiting it because as I was browsing Facebook, I noticed someone I once dated pretty hard is now in 2 year relationship.( In gay years that's like 10 years.) I am happy for him and I hope it all works well but it leaves me with two thoughts. Why can't most gays, especially black gays who claim to want to be in a relationship, find or maintain one and the second thought is, what am I doing?


I think that most young black gays find the idea and concept of being in a relationship the best thing that could happen but then when they do get into one, most don't know how to act. It is something different to be tied down. Then comes the tasks of balancing time with friends and even family, and learning how to compromise amongst other things depending on the relationship. In the end, I always hear that someone cheated or he wasn't right for me which is fine, but you have to ask before you get into something serious, what will the basis of this relationship be? Sex, money, other benefits? Be honest with him and yourself upfront.


For me, I think it would be easier to date anyone who is not from DC, lol. I love them southern grown or that northern swag. Now honestly I could have been in a relationship. At the time I didn't want to settle down. You will rarely hear me pouting about being single. On the other hand it is nice to know you have someone with your best interests at heart that you can share intimate moments with. Plus I'm picky, lol.


It all comes down to what makes you happy. Being single isn't a bad thing but for those truly seeking, keep those few things in minds.


KDJ




Friday, June 1, 2012

DC Black Pride 2012

 



Good day folks, I am writing to you one week after DC Black pride took over the streets, clubs and bars of the District. This was my first time in attendance in about 5 years. The last time I was in town for DC black pride I spoke on a panel representing Morehouse and HBCU's regarding LGBT issues on black campuses. Here is a photo from that... 

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Keith on DC Pride Panel, 2006
 This year, pride was historic for a number of reasons. First, there was a tremendous push for DC black pride this year. Word got around pretty fast that DC was back and planning to out all out. With WassupNATL and Omega Entertainment as the main promoters, I think people left pleased. Friday night left you with 3 club options, and all were packed from what I heard.

 Saturday was the second historic night, as part of the National's baseball stadium was turned into a club. Never has this been done before anywhere to my knowledge. This event also made history because over 10 years ago, the area where they stadium sits now was where most of the gay clubs in  DC were located. The gheys took over SW DC again for one night! And what a night it was! I had not experienced something like that since maybe my first Atlanta pride. On the bad side, two clubs held a "after party" events. Lace night club and The Legend. Lace was shut down because of an alleged fight and The Legend had a line as long as the day. I don't think anyone who thought of this idea expected such a huge turnout at 3:30am.


Sunday brought a pool party which I did not attend but I heard it turned out very well. Sunday was also one of the hottest and humid day of the year so I did not attend much until the evening where I went to the WassupNATL party at Ultra Bar. There was also the options of club Muse and Love nightclub. Ultra Bar reminded me of a typical night out in Atlanta at a club. the DJ was clearly out of the A because certain songs he played you will never here in a DC club again ANDDD he didn't play any go-go. That nigh ended with Terrell Carter performing. He was an actor for Tyler Perry who was outed by his ex-boyfriend....messy. Nonetheless his vocals are very good and the guys seemed to be into him.


Monday was a cookout I did not attend because it was too hot but I hear it was really nice.


Overall, DC stepped up its game this year. Miami Sizzle from initial reports was slightly dry. I do miss the beach though! Next pride blogs will be about DC Capital Pride (Yea another one) New York pride (Janet Jackson!) and Fire Island Black Out (FIBO).


KDJ