Thursday, June 7, 2012
Gay Relationships - Number 2
I have decided to revisit this topic since it has been a while. Wait let me be honest. I am revisiting it because as I was browsing Facebook, I noticed someone I once dated pretty hard is now in 2 year relationship.( In gay years that's like 10 years.) I am happy for him and I hope it all works well but it leaves me with two thoughts. Why can't most gays, especially black gays who claim to want to be in a relationship, find or maintain one and the second thought is, what am I doing?
I think that most young black gays find the idea and concept of being in a relationship the best thing that could happen but then when they do get into one, most don't know how to act. It is something different to be tied down. Then comes the tasks of balancing time with friends and even family, and learning how to compromise amongst other things depending on the relationship. In the end, I always hear that someone cheated or he wasn't right for me which is fine, but you have to ask before you get into something serious, what will the basis of this relationship be? Sex, money, other benefits? Be honest with him and yourself upfront.
For me, I think it would be easier to date anyone who is not from DC, lol. I love them southern grown or that northern swag. Now honestly I could have been in a relationship. At the time I didn't want to settle down. You will rarely hear me pouting about being single. On the other hand it is nice to know you have someone with your best interests at heart that you can share intimate moments with. Plus I'm picky, lol.
It all comes down to what makes you happy. Being single isn't a bad thing but for those truly seeking, keep those few things in minds.