Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Today I have a unique but very common topic to blog about. Possessive and/or jealous partners in dating or in a relationship. I blog about this because I believe I have recently engaged someone who shows these signs. I have only known him for a few weeks yet I have never encountered anyone that have shown these signs, especially when intoxicated. This person is very smart and good looking, so I am surprised at the actions they display when we are out. For example, If I glance at another guy, he assumes I want him (this has happened a couple of times) It gets to the point where he approaches the guy and practically puts me out there. As I was out for a friend's bday at a club last night, he ended up being there and standing over me the entire time. Sure, it is nice to see someone and be around them but I do not like being controlled or bossed around. We had our second heated argument, (the first resulting in me taking him home after a house party and I being called everything but a child of God) in the parking lot in which I told him me is a possessive and jealous guy. He admitted to being a jealous guy but even as I type this I can say I can be a jealous guy, but not to the extent of standing over any dude all night, especially one I just met. I know people who have been in relationships for years who to my knowledge never displayed such insecure actions. I'll just list a couple of circumstances and you tell if if shows jealousy or possessiveness: (Mind you we just met 3 weeks ago...)
1.Calling me baby or introducing me as his "boyfriend."
2. Asking to see my cellphone and gets upset when I don't.
3. Ask specific questions to what I am doing at the moment.
4. Get's upset If I look at another dude.
5. Calls me, then texts me to call him If I don't pick up the phone.
6. Get's every tweet I write directly to his phone as a text.
7. Standing over me at a party all night.