Wednesday, October 17, 2012
It has been a while since I have written a blog and what better way to start off than to write about something and someone who I have known for a few years. Robert C. Wright was elected the first African-American Bishop of the Episcopal Diocese of Atlanta last Saturday on the campus of Morehouse College. I have known Bishop Wright for about 5 years. I would attend his services at St. Paul Episcopal Church where he served as rector. His congregation worked in conjunction with the Episcopal Campus Ministry at Morehouse, the Absalom Jones Chapel, where I became an Episcopalian in 2005. The historic significance of his ordination goes beyond color barriers. Speaking on a personal level, his character, personality and teachings have certainly left a mark on me and clearly the many Episcopalians in the Diocese of Atlanta. Father Wright, as I have affectionately called him, led a very diverse congregation. I remember attending an Easter service and serving on the alter with him. The service was full of flair with trumpets, incents, candles and flowers. It was one of the best Easter services I have ever attended. I pray that Bishop Wright will lead the Diocese of Atlanta in the right direction and also I pray for the former Bishop that I was confirmed under, who has by the way written many books on the church and homosexuality, Bishop J. Neil Alexander.
Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Atlanta was a lot of fun for my bday. I really did it up down there with my bro and friends. The party moved from Atlanta back to DC to Philly to end in New York. Yes I drove! Philly was nice, as I finally got a chance to see the Liberty Bell and Independence Hall...I am a big history nerd. New York was amazing as I had a chance to see my NY friends and party with them.
Work has been consistent...nothing major to report there. Oh I was quoted in the Washington Post recently for my office...http://www.washingtonpost.com/local/crime/dc-expands-its-anti-littering-program/2012/08/02/gJQAtEczSX_print.html
Still single and not quite looking. I have decided to meet guys the old fashioned way...in person and not via an app or website. So far that has been very promising. I will keep you all update if anything comes from that.
I'll be back in NYC for black pride in a couple of weeks then I'm looking forward to the Morehouse-Howard game aka Nation's Classic in DC Labor Day weekend...which means I will not be in Atlanta for black pride.
Tuesday, July 10, 2012
The previous blog about my car being spray painted with a homophobic statement made me think about other times when I was in a position of being attacked for being gay. The two times that stands out is when I participated in the Atlanta pride parade and I was marching with the Episcopal Church. I was amazed at the signs and gestures of "you're going to hell" "God hates gays" and other derogatory statements. The other time was when I marched with Morehouse Safe Space during the MLK parade. Again, funny looks were given and derogatory statements were yelled. It made me wonder what was Dr. King thinking when he led marches for Civil Rights. At anytime he could have been assassinated but he lived and breathed the movement. Or what other great martyrs who led a revolution for change thought in their minds as their movements were taking place.
Nonetheless we must pray for those who are confused from the ministers to the closet self hating homosexual because in the end, God is love and God loves all of his creation, man and woman, boy and girl, gay or straight.
Sunday, July 8, 2012
My car was vandalized Sunday as I was at church. The car was parked in front of the church. The pictures say it all. Do I know who did it? Yes. Can I prove it, no. It is said that guys who are uncomfortable with their sexuality take it out on others and their property. So sad.
Thursday, June 7, 2012
I have decided to revisit this topic since it has been a while. Wait let me be honest. I am revisiting it because as I was browsing Facebook, I noticed someone I once dated pretty hard is now in 2 year relationship.( In gay years that's like 10 years.) I am happy for him and I hope it all works well but it leaves me with two thoughts. Why can't most gays, especially black gays who claim to want to be in a relationship, find or maintain one and the second thought is, what am I doing?
I think that most young black gays find the idea and concept of being in a relationship the best thing that could happen but then when they do get into one, most don't know how to act. It is something different to be tied down. Then comes the tasks of balancing time with friends and even family, and learning how to compromise amongst other things depending on the relationship. In the end, I always hear that someone cheated or he wasn't right for me which is fine, but you have to ask before you get into something serious, what will the basis of this relationship be? Sex, money, other benefits? Be honest with him and yourself upfront.
For me, I think it would be easier to date anyone who is not from DC, lol. I love them southern grown or that northern swag. Now honestly I could have been in a relationship. At the time I didn't want to settle down. You will rarely hear me pouting about being single. On the other hand it is nice to know you have someone with your best interests at heart that you can share intimate moments with. Plus I'm picky, lol.
It all comes down to what makes you happy. Being single isn't a bad thing but for those truly seeking, keep those few things in minds.
Friday, June 1, 2012
Good day folks, I am writing to you one week after DC Black pride took over the streets, clubs and bars of the District. This was my first time in attendance in about 5 years. The last time I was in town for DC black pride I spoke on a panel representing Morehouse and HBCU's regarding LGBT issues on black campuses. Here is a photo from that...
|Keith on DC Pride Panel, 2006|
Saturday was the second historic night, as part of the National's baseball stadium was turned into a club. Never has this been done before anywhere to my knowledge. This event also made history because over 10 years ago, the area where they stadium sits now was where most of the gay clubs in DC were located. The gheys took over SW DC again for one night! And what a night it was! I had not experienced something like that since maybe my first Atlanta pride. On the bad side, two clubs held a "after party" events. Lace night club and The Legend. Lace was shut down because of an alleged fight and The Legend had a line as long as the day. I don't think anyone who thought of this idea expected such a huge turnout at 3:30am.
Sunday brought a pool party which I did not attend but I heard it turned out very well. Sunday was also one of the hottest and humid day of the year so I did not attend much until the evening where I went to the WassupNATL party at Ultra Bar. There was also the options of club Muse and Love nightclub. Ultra Bar reminded me of a typical night out in Atlanta at a club. the DJ was clearly out of the A because certain songs he played you will never here in a DC club again ANDDD he didn't play any go-go. That nigh ended with Terrell Carter performing. He was an actor for Tyler Perry who was outed by his ex-boyfriend....messy. Nonetheless his vocals are very good and the guys seemed to be into him.
Monday was a cookout I did not attend because it was too hot but I hear it was really nice.
Overall, DC stepped up its game this year. Miami Sizzle from initial reports was slightly dry. I do miss the beach though! Next pride blogs will be about DC Capital Pride (Yea another one) New York pride (Janet Jackson!) and Fire Island Black Out (FIBO).
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
- Obama on gay marriage: This was no huge shocker as we knew Obama supported gay civil unions. He took it one step forward and went extreme liberal by endorsing same-sex marriages. Political move? You bet it is. I don't think this stance will help him with moderates and the conservative states that voted for him last go round. Only time will tell. Least we not forget Obama is the man who under his presidency captured and killed Bin Laden and Saddam Hussein.
- DC Politics: Harry Thomas, Jr.: Sad story here but again no surprise. He had it coming for taking tax paying dollars and allocating it to his pockets instead of towards the kids it was intended to help. When he finishes serving his 3 plus years maybe most of us will forget and he will be able to redeem himself. This is DC....Marion Barry did.
- Morehouse College: President Franklin "transitioning": I was around when the election to replace president Walter Massey '58 was in full swing.The Reverend Dr. Michael Franklin has lead the college with the premise of instituting "a well-balanced Morehouse Man." I believe he has done well in keeping the spirit of dear ol' Morehouse alive but when it comes to finances, he is no Massey, who brought millions of dollars to the institution during his tenure as president.
- Fitness: Many of you know my history on personal fitness. After losing all of the weight, I am in the processing of putting on some muscle weight and toning. BORING! Gym buddies apply inside.
- Love life: DOA...then again let me write more on this topic. This may come across as "shady" to some who read this but PLEASE explain to me why dudes in a relationship (wasn't initially disclosed) want to "hook up?" Having your cake and eat it too is quite elementary. Then after it it revealed (via Twitter...oops I'm nosy) you still try it? Being on both ends in the past of being cheated on and cheating it is not even worth it, believe me
- RHOA: Hilarious! Can't wait for the next season and just like Chateau Sheree...she wont be there when you tune in.
- Tupac: WOW that was some amazing graphics done at Coachella. Hip Hop/Rap/R&B, as usual, setting the trend. Expect to see a hologram Elvis soon.
Thursday, April 12, 2012
It seems the Lord is pushing me through a storm. This year has not been good with the loss of close people and companionship. I lost our family pet today, Cinnamon. We had her for over 10 years. I remember the day we got her. I had just got in the house one Saturday from a debate tournament during my junior year in high school. All Cinnamon wanted to do was sleep. At the time she wasn't a kitten but wasn't very big. I would guess around 2 or 3 years old. Cinnamon was not like any other cat. She had dog like ways. She would growl at other dogs and eventually ended up weighing near 20lbs. I can remember many Christmases; one where she knocked the tree over! Indeed this pet lived a very lavish life thanks to my mother who supplied that cat with every need. I am glad Cinnamon passed in the comfort of her home with family around. This morning I had a chance to really say good bye. I could tell she was weak and hated to see her in that state. We know all dogs go to heaven and if the creator is the God I know he is, there is a place for cats too.
The picture above was one that I got a good laugh out of. Cinnamon getting a shot lol. Good memories.
Tuesday, March 20, 2012
Today as I sit in this office, the one my manager used, the chair she use to sit in, I needed to write about this woman and her legacy and impact on me and on so many others who had the chance to meet Marlene Pheney. Ms. Pheney served as Interim Clean City Coordinator, inheriting the role as the Program Specialist for the Clean City Initiative. She served in that capacity since 2006. When I first came aboard about 3 years ago we sorta bumped heads (as Leo's often do,) but mostly the result of the coordinator at the time, who allowed such stuff to happen. In the last year however, Ms. Pheney and I got close as we were the only two left after the switch of mayoral administrations. We actually had a heart-to-heart the Spring of last year, where we both apologized and praised each others work habits. She said, "you were only trying to do your job." I in return praised her for sharing her knowledge and experiences in government, and particularly the ability to navigate our agency. All was well until Ms. Pheney became ill around mid-November. I remember the days leading up to what would be her final day at work. That Thursday around lunch time, I went out and got us Chinese food from our new favorite spot on U street. The food helped ease the pain she was experiencing in her stomach area. I came to work that Friday to find that she decided to go to the doctor. The doctor simply gave her some medicine and sent her home. I arrived Monday and still no Ms. Pheney. I called her on her cell phone and she told me she was still in severe pain and did not get much rest over the weekend. She was going back to the doctor that week for more help. Over the week Ms. Pheney took the medicine which made her more sick. She eventually ended up going to the hospital where they ran tests and ultimately found she has having issues with her pancreas. She would spend the months of December, January and February in and out the hospital. Over this time period, we spoke daily and I visited her a few times while she was in the hospital. I went to go see her Christmas Eve at home to take her gifts. Little did I know this would be the last time I saw her alive. Our time together that evening was lovely. We talked about watched the football game that was on as she was a big Redskins fan (My Cowboys lost.) Ms. Pheney and I shared a unique bond of discussing just about everything under the sun not related to work. She wanted to meet my grandmother eventually, as I always spoke about her, her cooking and their similar sage gift of wisdom. Ms. Pheney in January was told that she would begin chemo/radiation to battle the now pancreatic cancer. She was excited that she could begin this treatment. She was no stranger to this as she defeated breast cancer and colon cancer years ago. The last time I spoke to Ms. Pheney on the phone was the Thursday before her death the following Tuesday. We spoke briefly as her doctors were coming in the speak with her. I guess the cancer had spread and that she was told there was nothing much they could do. She was told she had 6 months to live and she was already 4 months in. Tuesday night I checked my work email, not a normal practice for me to do, to which I found emails with the subject "Marlene Pheney." I clicked the first email from our Community Affairs director that told us of her passing. I was in disbelief. I had just sat down to watch one of our favorite shows, "The Biggest Loser." Coming into the office next day was hard. By the time I got in, everyone had heard the news. Ms. Pheney was very well known throughout the city government. I remember just walking down the street with her and she would run into people that knew her. She was certainly set in her ways and stood her ground but was open and spoke to everyone that crossed her path. Today I treasure the time I had with such a spectacular phenomenal woman. I thank the Lord for putting her in my life and for us overcoming our personal gripes to developing a beautiful friendship. May she rest in peace.
Tuesday, March 6, 2012
Year after year, countless men and women swear that they will work their stomachs and achieve the elusive six-pack; most of these men fail. What is the deal here? Well for one, studies show that your body fat percentage must be below 10% for men and 13% for women to even see a line of definition. So no matter how many crunches and sit ups you do, it cannot be seen under the extra body fat. The idea is if you are overweight or just have a little extra body fat to lose it. Of course cardio and working out is key but a healthy diet is very much where you spend 80% of your time outside out of the gym. Carbohydrates are the kryptonite to having abs. The daily recommended balance of carbs are fine but overdoing it is a no no. Almonds, eggs, berries, salmon and leafy vegetables are great for abs. Once you get the diet right, Focus on ab workouts that break up into the upper and lower abs. Upper (crunches, reaching up to your feet with legs in the air) Lower ( leg lifts, feet to the heaven (Google it) and regular ab workouts, scissors and my favorite planks. All of these and many more ab workouts can be found through Google or Youtube with examples on how to perform the exercise.
Wednesday, February 15, 2012
Today I have a unique but very common topic to blog about. Possessive and/or jealous partners in dating or in a relationship. I blog about this because I believe I have recently engaged someone who shows these signs. I have only known him for a few weeks yet I have never encountered anyone that have shown these signs, especially when intoxicated. This person is very smart and good looking, so I am surprised at the actions they display when we are out. For example, If I glance at another guy, he assumes I want him (this has happened a couple of times) It gets to the point where he approaches the guy and practically puts me out there. As I was out for a friend's bday at a club last night, he ended up being there and standing over me the entire time. Sure, it is nice to see someone and be around them but I do not like being controlled or bossed around. We had our second heated argument, (the first resulting in me taking him home after a house party and I being called everything but a child of God) in the parking lot in which I told him me is a possessive and jealous guy. He admitted to being a jealous guy but even as I type this I can say I can be a jealous guy, but not to the extent of standing over any dude all night, especially one I just met. I know people who have been in relationships for years who to my knowledge never displayed such insecure actions. I'll just list a couple of circumstances and you tell if if shows jealousy or possessiveness: (Mind you we just met 3 weeks ago...)
1.Calling me baby or introducing me as his "boyfriend."
2. Asking to see my cellphone and gets upset when I don't.
3. Ask specific questions to what I am doing at the moment.
4. Get's upset If I look at another dude.
5. Calls me, then texts me to call him If I don't pick up the phone.
6. Get's every tweet I write directly to his phone as a text.
7. Standing over me at a party all night.
Thursday, February 9, 2012
In recent days, we have heard and seen surges of attacks both vocally and physically of LGBT persons. First, we read about the tweet from Ronald Martin during the Superbowl which asserted that if a man was to get excited about a pair of underwear, he should be smacked. Martin days later would be suspended from CNN for his tweet after pressure from GLAAD (Gay and Lesbian Alliance Against Defamation.) Later the same week, we saw a young, presumably gay black male, viciously assaulted outside of a corner store in southwest Atlanta. The FBI and Atlanta police are investing.
While I don't believe the two are remotely connected, both have raised national attention again on the treatment of LGBT people and specifically in the African American community. First, It is no secret that hatred is spoken from the pulpit in churches across the country every Sunday. I never understood how Christians and some pastors can make Jesus, a man who walked amongst with the most oppressed of people, to be construed into a Jesus that hates a certain sect of people. Second, It is unfortunate that it took these recent events to create dialogue again about one of the many problems plaguing the black community. We have come too far as a people to let something as small as one's sexual orientation be the achilles heel of our progress in this country. Especially when LGBT have and continue to have an influence on this country and the world. In short, we cannot ask for full acceptance as many people are set in their ways and beliefs but tolerance is a first step towards changing the mindset of a well-known journalist and a couple of "low life thugs."
Friday, February 3, 2012
I feel like I do 30% of my blogs on relationships but tonight I have a few questions to want to ask and give my answer.
Do you believe in open relationships?
For me the answer is mixed. I am sure as I get older I would want a more monotonous relationship but right now I like to have that option open, if I was in a relationship. I dunno maybe a like-minded individual feels the same way. On the other hand, if... and I'm being really blunt, if the sex is good, no phenomenal, then sure I don't need anyone else. Sex is not and should not be the basis of a relationship but let's face it, we all like it and want it at some point or another.
UPDATE: I originally wrote this blog 3 weeks ago but had it saved as a draft. In that time, I spoke with a friend who is in an open relationship and explained how it works for him. He told me that is is more for companionship than anything else. You set the rules of the open relationship. For example must you tell your partner everytime you mess around with another person? Do you have three-somes together? The answers to those questions are set by the couple. I honestly see it as friends with benefits but to each his own.
Why choose to be single?
Wednesday, January 18, 2012
Happy New Year! I hope that your year so far has been an excellent one! I though it was time I update this blog just to say hello. I spent New Years in NYC with friends and now back in the office on break. I plan on continuing my blog stories this year, including some NYC experiences. Additionally, updating the fitness blogs and of course, my political ranting. Speaking of, I went to see "The Iron Lady," a movie about former British Prime Minister Margaret Thatcher which I found a bit inspiring. I plan on doing some more detailed study of her life and policies as a conservative.
A few of my friends are republicans and have been trying to sway me to become republican lol. I currently stand as a moderate democrat. Some say the older you become, the more liberal you become. I find myself to be the complete opposite. I never see myself as a Herman Cain or Clarence Thomas, but certain policies and ideologies I can agree with on a conservative level such as limits on spending and pro life.
So I will be in Atlanta next weekend for the Honda Battle of the Bands at the Georgia Dome. It is also a good friends bday so we plan on partying away Atlanta! Anyone who has "partayed" with me knows I know how to party lol.
Lastly I want to thank everyone for reading this blog...whenever I blog. I get requests or reminders in person, via Twitter and emails expressing great interest. I had no idea. If you like my thoughts and ideas so much I encourage you to follow me on Twitter @KeithJonesJr where I spend most of my life now tweeting about life lol. Happy 2012!