Thursday, December 15, 2011

To Date: Younger or Older

My best friend and I usually have this discussion every other time we talk. He likes older men, I like them around my age. By older, he likes them in their 40's and I like them in the late 20's. Of course, there are obvious benefits and disadvantages from dating younger or older. Lets break it down. The way I see it and from what he has experienced:

Older Guys: Are more stable, and typically self-assured....
Younger Guys: Are trying to stabilize themselves, ability to grow together....

On the other hand...
Older Guys: Are not as outgoing, i.e. Club or Bar (been there done that), Are more set in their ways...
Younger Guys: Can be immature, outgoing yet sometimes too much...

I think the biggest issue and difference between my best friend is I is my father just turned 50 and his parents are roughly 20 years senior my parents. So I see dating anyone in their 40's like it's dating someone my parent's age. It just feels weird. I recently dabled in the 30 year old range and that seemed cool. I also put a age limit of no one under 25. Age can be tricky, because age does not mean maturity. What do you all think? Have you or are you dating someone younger or older than you?

2 comments:

Bon McClaude said...

Hmmmm... I think older men are the tea! Who wants to be changing each others diapers? No bueno.

Or, were both struggling to find our way? Uhh.. think again.

Or, we're both in the club competing with the same queens. Ch...

35+ !! Lol

Will said...

There is a 15 year age difference between me and my guy. I’m the oldest. He’s 30. We’ve been together now since 2006, and looks like we’re in it for good. He hit me up on Yahoo 360, we went out on a date, and the rest is history. We both are sort of old spirits and enjoy chilling out cuddling at home watching movies, playing UNO or Scrabble. It’s like you said, I’m not big on going out to clubs. I never was that much into it even when I was younger. But the good thing is, neither is he. So, we didn’t have to worry about having to reach a compromise in that area like other couples I know with a big age difference. And as it turns out, the actual age is just a number, and unless we bring it up, it doesn’t seem to be a big deal. The older we get, the less important age becomes. I think that as hard as it is for some people to find worthwhile people to date, I think it’s more important to find someone compatible. Don’t get me wrong, I do think there is a limit and if there is too much of a difference, you won’t have much in common and it won’t work. But each couple has to decide what that limit is and what is and isn’t too much of an age difference. I think it really depends on the two people. If you meet someone and you can laugh and enjoy each other and are on similar levels all the way around, then the actual age shouldn’t get in the way of dating each other.