Monday, November 14, 2011

Relations of a Relationship




It seems like I get this question at least once a day. Why aren't you in a relationship or why are you single...still?" Then with the added you're attractive, and have a nice body and funny and blah blah blah. Thank you, but right now I do not seek a relationship.  

Let me give you a back story. I have had five serious relationships and each one taught me something. I am grateful that I still communicate with each of them so there were never any hard feelings in the break ups. We broke up over what I see now as silly stuff... minus the one that cheated. One passed in car accident last year and we hadn't spoken in about a year or so. Therefore I have made it mandatory to keep up with the people who in many ways are apart of me as I am of them. As you can see, I take the matter seriously and never with a light heart or mind. Sure guys hit on me and I have even had one tried to get serious after the first date. Really? Nothing is more unattractive than someone who comes off as "thirsty." We can agree for arguments sake that I may be a good catch but don't you think I seek the same? My last dating experience taught me that nothing should be rushed. I Love him to death but I was simply not ready to settle down. Is that a crime? In the gay world that's pretty much like saying I want to continue to be a whore. But how about I want to continue to develop my myself internally. Everyone meets at different levels. If is it meant to be I don't believe it has to be forces or rushed, it naturally happens. 

KDJII

4 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think your ego got in the way of this post. You have been in 5 relationships and how old are you? I think that is one of the biggest problems with the younger gay dudes; they think that they are so great and they are doing things that no one else has done before. check your ego...

Anonymous said...

I really think you have an OVER-SIZED EGO and it's stooping you from interacting with great people that want to be your friend.

Keith Jones said...

I follow the zodiac very well, so by default in my view, I have an ego. Over-sized is a push. I am 26 and really came into the scene at 17. Believe 5 relationships is a small number compared to many I know my age. I don't see how I am being stopped with interacting with great people when I am their friend and we do communicate...just not in a relationship.

Will said...

I think when people ask about why you’re single, you can feel confident in saying that there’s nothing wrong with being single. Many of us feel pressured to get partnered up because friends and associates make us feel awkward and uncomfortable for not having someone in our lives. They constantly ask us about it. My current relationship is going strong and I think it’s because of the time I spent as a single person. The growth and maturity that often takes place can help prepare you for love when it comes. That’s the way I see it. And regarding the issue of having an ego, I don’t think that is relevant and well, I happen to think there is a very, very thin line between having a big ego and being self-confident and comfortable in your skin. But ego or not, I do not think that has anything to do with one’s relationship status. I just wanted to throw that out there.