Wednesday, May 27, 2009

How I became an Episcopalian

Thanks to a fellow blog reader for inspiring this blog. A lot of people don't even know much about the Episcopal Church and if they do most assume its made up of a majority white parishioners. That couldn't be far from the truth. My first interaction with the Episcopal denomination came my freshman year of college. I had made a few connections in Atlanta before I left to attend college and one connection ended up being a staunch Episcopalian. When I did not have my room and board situated the people of this one particular parish, or church assigned to the AUC (Atlanta University Center) ie Morehouse, Spelman, Clark Atlanta, etc reached out a helping hand to a freshman in a strange city on a new journey. After my room and board was situated I started to attend services at what we affectionately call, the chapel. The Rev Gloria Bowden, who I wrote a previous blog about was chaplain at the time. She was the most caring individuals one could have known.
Anyway this was also a time where I was struggling with religion and homosexuality. I was born in the church and raised in the church, and I have family that serve as pastors and deacons in traditional black holiness and Baptist churches so I was aware of the you're going to hell argument. I wasn't the only one struggling with this that year and Gloria directed us all to some books and some priests that could answer our questions. Through my research I couldn't understand how one can spew hate from Gods pulpit and talk down about people that did nothing wrong to them. So the Episcopal church proved to be a place that was very open that gay people are made in Gods image like anybody else. The main idea that floats in my mind is God is Love. So on the two points that the church was helpful to me, and spritually nutured me I decided to become an Episcopalian. I went through the confirmation classes and learned more about the church rich history. I also learned that African Americans make up a big part of the church. One big change for me that I have come to appreciate is the order of service. There is no running around and falling out, not to say that it is wrong, but honestly I never saw myself doing all of that. Episcopalians praise God in decency and in order. Unfortunately before I was confirmed Gloria succumed to cancer. That hurt us all but her teachings and thoughts will live forever in those she touched, including me. Thats how I became an Episcopalian.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Children, the true victims of the recession

There are 16,000 homeless children in the United States.

I was watching CBS news a few nights ago and I was almost in tears at the end of a story of a mother and her 8 year old son whose home was foreclosed on and now live in a small motel room. The boy who seemed very intelligent for his age is dealing with the realities of life at an early age, which forces him to grow up way faster than he should. Today on CNN a similar story aired about a young teen girl who was striving to make it on her own living in a shelter with her father. Each of these children struck a tone in me. Their resiliency and their ambition to still make something of themselves. They want to attend school and have a career, despite their current situation. We all could learn a thing or two from these and other young people who are striving to make it during tough times. Although it is not their own fault for the situation they are in they look for better days, and still believe that they can be something in this world. They may not realize it but they have already made a difference or have had an impact on someones life by telling their stories.


A short video blog to thank all of you my blog readers and supporters.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

We Need Each Other

We need each other. That is the idea that I am becoming more aware of as of late. Human beings cannot face this world alone for the idea itself could drive one insane. God placed us here on this earth to make the best of our existence and that includes befriending one another. I have always looked to the eagle as my favorite bird. Independent, travels alone never in packs, and can very much survive different weather conditions. Yet even sometimes the eagle needs a helping hand, as they are now on the endangered species list. This is all to say no matter how independent we may be, exigent times do arise and everyone needs a helping hand. We may never know why God brings certain people in our lives or why we go through certain situations. However I do belief each day is a test and an opportunity to make one small difference in someone's life. Whether its sparing change to the needy, or giving time and energy towards the elderly, disabled or young children. These good deeds add up and over time, we all can make a lifetime of a difference.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Morehouse Atrocity

I came across this article on and I must say I am completely utterly outraged at this.

I was going to post a video blog, then a written blog but instead I am going to post a conversation I had with someone on this issue.

Read from bottom to top...

Right its not a Morehouse problem directly but indirectly being that it was two Morehouse students, should be held to the highest standards.
Honestly even it wasn't Morehouse students where is the stand against black on black violence? Especially black men.
I don't think I can agree with you however about the 'extra stuff that Morehouse offers. Very true, education is the main reason why anyone attends college. However schools like Morehouse tend to nurture you in its own unique way, the idea of the Morehouse mystic you may have heard of. There is nothing wrong with living up to certain standards. The ideas of the renaissance that Morehouse men should be well read, well kept, etc is a good thing to live up to. It gives us not only an education, but a sense of humanity and decency.

I agree the sentence was easy. But it is really not a Morehouse problem. And the renaissance mission is complete crap. I understand the meaning, however in the end of the day the purpose is education. Not the extra bull Morehouse has


very true but on two points I must disagree. Point one the sentence for attempted murder was too lenient. The plea deal was not appropriate for the crime that was committed. Point 2 Morehouse, a school that boasts in making renaissance men did not live up to its name or rich history by allowing a student that attempted to murder another student continue his matriculation at the college. If anything the college should have been outraged at the lenient plea deal arranged.


dear Morehouse bro

I disagree with you about the Morehouse shooting. Even though the student was in a fight. Nobody should be denied an education

Thursday, May 7, 2009

A Message From Morehouse

Eliminate young African American men, and what would police, jailers, social workers, and sports and entertainment moguls do for a living?

After all, young black men live to get in trouble, make babies, act out on stage, slam-dunk and dance in the end zone. That, at least, is the mass-media-influenced image that is accepted as “authentic” by people who should know better.

Someone who does know better is Robert M. Franklin, the president of Morehouse College, the venerable, all-male, historically black Atlanta college noted for building up and turning out generations of outstanding leaders such as Martin Luther King Jr., the theologian and writer Howard W. Thurman, and prominent D.C. lawyer James L. Hudson.

Franklin’s remarks to students at an April 21 town hall meeting on the campus didn’t make headlines. But excerpts from “The Soul of Morehouse and the Future of the Mystique” are making the rounds in African American homes and in social settings, thanks to the Internet and a communications phenomenon called the “black express,” which preceded and outlives the Pony Express.

Franklin’s speech focused on Morehouse students. But his message has caught on because it speaks to a larger community of up-and-coming young black men who are studiously ignored by arbiters of popular culture.

He translated the mystique into eight simple words:
“Renaissance men with social conscience and global perspective.”

Franklin said that after two years at the college, he had recognized a critical ingredient that bonds Morehouse men: a fundamental sense of discontent with mediocrity and nonsense. He encouraged the continued development of young black men “so sensitive to the presence of disorder, mediocrity and injustice that they cannot sleep well at night.” And he used the moment to take on what he views as the corruption that threatens the soul of young men and women “inside and outside the Morehouse village”: the young black male antics so celebrated by popular culture. That conduct, he suggested, represents the behavior of “the spiritually ill and disoriented.”

He demanded, that students instead embrace his “Five Wells”: well-read, well-spoken, well-traveled, well-dressed and well-balanced. And he highlighted three: reading, speech, and dress.

“I have seen too many students standing in lines wasting time. You should carry something to read and make good use of your down time. Read books, not just summaries of books. Choose an accomplished and prolific writer as a role model,” he declared. “But just as important — if not more — study grammar and syntax and the art of composition. Learn the power of accurately constructed sentences and well-positioned words.”

“It matters,” he said, “how well you write.”

Franklin's thoughts on diversity and decorum are required reading.

"As an all-male institution with the explicit mission of educating men with disciplined minds," said Franklin, "the great challenge of this moment in history is our diversity of sexual orientation."

"Why don't we," he asked the students, "use this opportunity to model something our community needs?"

"Straight men," Franklin said, "should learn more about the outlooks and contributions of gay men. Read a book by a gay author. Have an intelligent conversation with a gay neighbor." Franklin reminded the Morehouse students: "At a time when it was truly scandalous to have homosexual friends or associates, Dr. King looked to Bayard Rustin, a black gay man, as a trusted adviser. And, Malcolm X regarded James Baldwin, a black gay man, as a brilliant chronicler of the black experience."


"To my straight brothers," he said, "diversity at Morehouse is an opportunity that can enrich your education if you are courageous enough to seize the opportunity. We cannot force you, but we invite you to learn from your environment."

On decorum and dress: "I have not desired to be overly prescriptive about this. You do not have to wear a tie and jacket to class, although no one would object to it. You're a college student. You can enjoy yourself while wearing comfortable clothing that respects the fact that you are part of a community of educated and ethical men."

But, he demanded, "in the presence of adult learners, do not sag your pants, do not show your undergarments. Do not wear do-rags, and do not wear baseball caps in class or in the cafeteria."

"Wear what you wish to off campus," he said. "But, while you are here on the ground where [Benjamin] Mays and Martin [Luther King Jr.] and Maynard [Jackson] walked, those items are off limits."

"If you want to be part of something rare and noble, something that the world has not often seen -- a community of educated, ethical, disciplined black men more powerful than a standing army -- then you've come to the right place."

To the knuckleheads and clowns who exploit their color while degrading their legacy, Franklin declared: "If you cannot follow the guidelines of a moral community, then leave."

Let the church say "Amen."


A powerful speech from the President of Morehouse that covers many issues we have in the black community, particularly among black males.

As far as being a well rounded person I couldn't agree more. It is important that the black male redefine himself. In this day in time there is no excuse for to not self improve and self progress. With the election of a black American president we have to leave the crutch of blaming the white male alone. Black men must begin to think highly of themselves. For too long the black male has been told he is a nobody. Let us stop playing that part and acting another. It starts with simply caring about our destiny. Many of us come from broken homes and places many have nightmares about. but lets not let our past dictate our future. The future begins now.

On the topic of sexual orientation and acceptance I applaud the President for making this inclusive statement. I was very weary when I learned that Franklin was a minister. I was sure he would be against the gay movement on campus. It seems like he has been very accepting and willing to learn and work with the student body in bringing the campus together.

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Black Unity (VIDEO BLOG)

U Need Space, REALLY?

So I think a lot of us have been in this relationship spot before...
-Person 1"I need space"
Person 2 "Space for what I thought we were doing good"
Person 1 "I just think we need time apart"
Person 2 "Umm I dont get it, but if you think so"

This sounds like a selfish decision. One made by one person and not even considering what their partner thinks or the implications a decision like that has. I have been there before because I believe there is a thing called "smothering" somebody however you gotta think why one needs this "space." Space to find another dude/girl? Space or have a reason to cheat without cheating? There is always more to the issue than meets the eye.
Communication is important in relationships. I know I am not perfect at communicating my feelings but when its something serious it is vital that a couple shares feelings, whether good or bad. So this space thing I dont fully understand. It creates a void and in all cases I have heard of space was virtually the end of that relationship. So talk about it and work it out, maybe instead of space u need more honest open communication.

Tell A Hook Up Story # 7- From the Club to the Bed

Its about time I did another one of these lol. Thanks for all the feedback.

Back in the day a young mind would leave the club and go right to the hook up. This is such a story. A Sunday night in Atlanta which means the Chaparral was the place to go. A few drinks in and the music poppin is the feel good sensation clubbing can bring. However this one night some dude was really checkin me out. One dance with that dude would have been enough but numbers were exchanged and suddenly it goes from there. After the club we talked outside and I almost nutted after seeing his mercedes Benz car. I knew this would be cute. So I followed him to Stone Mountain, farr from my spot near downtown Atlanta. His house was big just as I pictured it. He even had a fireplace in his bedroom. He was decent looking and had a decent body so it was definately on. It was truly a "vers" night as we both took and gave it up for a good hour maybe. You can call it a sleepover because the next morning I was treated to breakfast in bed. One of the best hook ups ever lol.

DC Council Recognizes Gay Marriage

Wassup all. You all KNOW I love to blog about the DC Government and today a historic thing was done. The Council voted 12-1 to recognize same sex marrages performed in other states. Of course the odd ball to vote against it was suddenly moral Marion Barry. Barry, who has been an ally for the gay community and even promising to support this issue FLIP FLOPED on the vote citing confusion. One of the two openly gay council members David Catania called Marion Barrys stance on the issue bigotry. This sudden albatross for Barry really made him an outcast.
Surprisingly Mayor Fenty stated he will sign the bill into law.

One would have thought during the discussion that Barry started the gay rights movement as he cited his work with the gay community since 1971. I am again ashamed of Barry and personally will write a letter to his office criticizing his change of vote on this civil rights issue.