Monday, December 21, 2009

Happy Holidayz Update


Wassup folks! Happy Holidays to you and yours. If you were like me stuck in 20 inches of snow, then you couldnt do the last minute shopping u meant to do over the weekend. Epic fail I know but it will get done someday this week. Despite all the cold and snow, is it just me or does it not feel like Christmas? So whats new with me? So much yet so little. I'll make it simple... Single still - yes...talking to someone... nope. You may recall last year I was in a relationship around this time so its been a year since I have been comitted. In the year I have grown and learned so much. I have a promising career doing what I love. The rest I leave in God's hands. Be blessed and safe over this Christmas holiday.


KDJONES

Wednesday, December 16, 2009

DC Gives Stamp of Approval on Gay Marriage


Well folks, I had to come out of hiding on this one. I have been so engulfed in work at City Hall that I have not found time to blog. However, something of epic proportions as this deserves a blog. Yesterday, the DC City Council on an 11-2 vote approved same sex marriages in the District of Columbia. The Mayor is expected to sign the bill. Of course like any DC law passed, it is subject to a Congressional review period of 30 days. However Congress is not likely to intervene on this bill. This piece of legislation was years in the making, as DC as always been a progressive city, just caught under the watchful umbrella of Congress, who unfairly has the right to have say so on local matters. Nevertheless this was a victory for DC in many ways. With DC joining five states on allowing same sex marriages, it gives the city a sense of autonomy when it comes to making legislation and passing controversial laws. Futhermore it exploits the fact that DC is a city that does not have voting rights in Congress. With over 600,000 people UNREPRESENTED, this is a modern day atrocity. Congrats to the newly engaged and to the city council for thir hard work.

Wednesday, November 4, 2009

ALIVE!


Wassup Folks yea I a still here workin in the Mayors Office in DC. I will be bloggin more soon

Thursday, September 17, 2009

The Hook Up #9 -Sinner or Saint?



Atlanta, 2004, I was reminded of this story through a friend that knows the same dude. I think I met dude, we'll call him tony, through blackplanet. He was a freshman at Clark Atlanta and we decided to meet on the strip aka promenade. We had a good discussion and found out we had a lot on common, including being student govt President in HS. Anyway we called it a night. I told my bestfriend at Clark also about the incident and come to find out he had a crush on dude as well, lol. Although they never messed around to my knowledge Tony and I had a open friendship for about a month. We went on a "Date" to the Annual Morehouse-Spelman Christmas Concert. after that we actually hung out, in my bestfriends room lol. That was quite the experience. Since we all knew each other at this point, Tony gave me a lap dance while I was sitting on the bed as my friend on he pc laughed and tried not to look. He swore he didnt have a crush on dude but I still felt uncomfortable about the situation. So a few weeks later Tony comes to the student center one rainy night and he told me that he was trying to "turn straight" at the same time, maybe through foolishness or love struck, I decided to do the same. We clearly both failed lol within a week. However we didn't talk much after that and the most we ever shared was a kiss, but I believe he was the reason I decided to study the Bible and homosexuality. Tony is doing very well now as his facebook shows but we haven't spoken in 5 years.

Sunday, September 6, 2009

Unemployment at 25% in Ward 8 in DC


Ward 8 has challenges — its poverty and unemployment rates, at 36 and 25 percents respectively, are the highest of any of the city’s wards, as is its percentage (34 percent) of residents without a high school diploma, according to the Urban Institute and Washington,D.C. Local Initiatives Support Corporation for 2000, the last year for which numbers were available.
Ward 8 also had the highest number of violent crimes at 22 per 1,000 residents of any D.C. ward in 2007, the last year for which numbers were available, according to the Corporation (the D.C. city-wide average is 14 violent crimes per 1,000 residents).

According to NBC 4, most of the unemployment in ward 8 can be traced to lack of education and a criminal record. This is a troubling issue as people need jobs in order to survive. It is statistically known that more jobs equal less crime. So the question is how do we solve this problem? Its simple, adult education and literacy programs are pertinent to solving this paradox. Second more jobs that help support and grow the community. Most of the time, this issue falls on the government to fix but I believe the community should have a helping hand as well. If we stuck together as a community, I believe the problem wouldn't be as bad. A lot of non profits help with adult education and offer jobs but we need more invested interest. The government cannot solve everything.

Thursday, August 27, 2009

Remembering Ted Kennedy


The long life of the great man named Edward "Ted" Kennedy came to an end just a day ago. Even if you are not into politics I am sure you have heard the name Kennedy. Ted lived a long life, born into a family of power and wealth, yet always remembered those less fortunate. He fought for those that could not fight, and spoke for those that did not have a voice. He was instrumental and getting a lot of progressive legislation passed during his 8 terms as a United States Senator, including civil rights, health care and immigration reform.

On a personal level, Ted Kennedy was one of the people I found myself "rooting" for when he spoke on the Senate floor. He spoke with passion and conviction and really made it interesting to watch. He was a man that I think really "GOT IT." Public service is not about getting rich, its about helping and being the voice of the people you represent. Senator Kennedy is an inspiration for me. A man that withstood so much personal struggle and pain. From losing his brothers to losing the presidency, he still indelibly made his mark on history.

"We know the future will outlast all of us, but I believe that all of us will live on in the future we make." --Accepting an honorary degree from Harvard, December 2008

Tuesday, August 25, 2009

Reflections on being a Teacher


Last summer, I had the pleasure of co-teaching a 5th grade summer session at Excellence Charter School in Brooklyn, NY. I thought this blog would be appropriate,since many are embarking upon another school year. When I think of being a teacher, many adjectives come to mind. However the one that really stands out is dedication. I once heard someone say that if you can stand in front of a class and try to maintain and teach children, you can handle any job.
Many people do not give teachers the credit they are due. They are the lifetime, between success and failure. Many work sun up to sun down before and way after school lesson planning, grading papers and thinking of new ideas to improve their teachings style. For almost 3 months, I lived the life of a teacher. I had to plan lessons, teach, in addition to attending professional development sessions in the evenings. Many people see teaching as a stepping stone to another career but those that stay are the most dedicated.

I cannot stress enough the importance of black male teachers in inner city schools. I remember my own 5th grade teacher, a black male, who scolded me for not getting a math problem right. I will never forget that man or the influence of the many teachers I have had during my academic career.

Today I salute the teachers of the world, as you are producing the next generation of leaders.

Monday, August 10, 2009

Tell A Hook Up Story #8 -Internal Affairs


The loooong awaited return of this series! Again thank you all for the feedback. Of course names, and dates are made up to protect any third party.

ATLANTA, Georgia, Fall 2005. Another year of college brought new experiences and challenges but none as peculiar as this. As I was exploring "the life" style in and out the clubs and starting to leave the confines of my dear college lo and behold a member of the college reached back for me. I was on m4n one fine crisp Fall Afternoon on my normal 2 hour break before my next class and I run across a dude who was at the time in his late 20's. A big no no for me at the time since I was barely making 20. Anyway he didn't look his age and he was cute so I figured I would give him some play. We talked briefly and then he asked what school did I go to? I told him and he replied I worked there? Naturally,I was shocked and even horrified in a way? Did he know me? He told me he worked in the payroll office so he doesn't run into students much. I was relieved. So I decided to meet him at the office. It was funny meeting someone from a site like that and acting so inconspicuous, I deserved a damn Oscar, lol. Anyway he was really cool in person and our first encounter was clean. We eventually exchanged YIM information and had another meet and greet on his lunch break in the office. We were both "orally" inclined and that "session" lasted 10 maybe 15 minutes.I have done and did the do in some interesting places but this was maybe the most unique lol. Of course we didn't meet up too much as to not arouse suspicion but when we did, it was a good mid day snack on my part lol.

Controversially Me 'Written word'


I call myself a rebel, a social activist, and a natural born leader
I take stances that are controversial, ugly, and some would say immoral
Im controversially me.

At the same time you will never know the real me
The one that secretly prays for your soul while you sleep
The one that's there through thick and deep.

I may never say "I love you"
But YOU are the LOVE that I need
in my times of trial, being controversially me.

Saturday, August 1, 2009

FAGGOT


Im sure the title of this blog caught your attention. Its a hurt word like nigger, or cracker. It's use is to demean or hurt someone, whether they are homosexual or not. I am writing this blog because I saw first hand how hateful that word can be and even worse how much hate is built up in the person using the word. I was getting my seafood dinner at a local carry out in DC when I overheard a young boy, maybe in his early teens call two dudes that walked by faggots. The dudes walked on and honestly were not clockable but even so the word pierced through me. The young teen was terribly loud and even went so far to say I hope someone kills the faggots. I was in shock and astonishment. I thought who instilled all this hatred into this 12 or 13 year old. Where did he learn to hate so much? Clearly his threats were idle but it reminded me of a reality that we live in. The gay acceptance movement has far to go before stereotypes are removed, especially in the African-American community. Back to my thoughts on the boy I wondered if he learned this hatred at home. Im assuming "daddy" isn't there and mama cant control a teen boys every move. Maybe in school, where we know that age is a time where many teens tend to find themselves. Quite possibly even his church is the root of this hate. His interpretation of what the preacher said about "all gays are going to hell" could simply be, kill them. I don't know the source of the young teen's hatred, but I do know we need to accept people, no matter what their background may be. Diversity training needs to be taught in kindergarten quite frankly, which I know is a controversial issue and stance. However lets face it, most inner city youth are not directly exposed to the positive images that homosexuals contribute to society. That can extend to race and gender as well. The black male is in peril and it starts in the community. Most homes are in shambles and the schools are playing "catch up" so its time the HRC, GLAAD, and NBJC, and other affirming organizations begin to reach out to these people, young and old in order to facilitate discussion and hopefully acceptance. Because although that young man said those things not ONE adult said anything to quiet the boy. The word faggot is unacceptable.

Tuesday, July 28, 2009

My Spill on a few of the Major Topics


Hello folks!

I know many of you have been asking about my blogs. I have not written in a while but you can rest assured I have been up on the major issues I tend to blog about. I really don't know where to begin so I guess I'll work my way backwards.

The situation that involved the black Harvard professor and a white cop I believe was clearly racially motivated. I don't have clear cut evidence of this but let's use common sense. The man looked suspicious in a predominantly white neighborhood. I don't know what occurred once the police arrived but the fact that he was taken to jail...especially if he did show his I.D. tells me that this was an abuse of the law. There was no reason for that man to be arrested. Belligerent or not wouldn't you be furious if cops came to your home and gave you a hard time on your property?

The Michael Jackson story develops with no shocking news to me. From day 1 I was suspicious of that Doctor. From him leaving the scene to the police towing his car, his story never added up. I don't know his M.O. but hopefully if this man was the man behind Jackson's death he will be prosecuted to the full extent of the law.
As im sure many of you do I feel sorry for his kids. I hope they grow up into their full potential, no matter who eventually ends up raising them.

So Michael Vick is a free man and now can play in the NFL again. If he is genuinely sincere I know the Lord will provide for him to play on a higher level and maybe even carry some team to the Superbowl. Talk about a success story.

On Obama's healthcare plan I am still up in the air on how I feel. My grandmother called it communism and some believe anything ran by the government has a catch. I do believe Obama has good intentions with this healthcare reform but how many people will it hurt? We all know it will not be as glittery as some Democrats are saying. I understand that under our current system the US is putting tons of money into healthcare. Quite honestly I feel like some Doctors could use a pay cut. That stance may be radical but im honest. Infact that could apply to overpriced lawyers and any other field that charges inflation prices. I surely believe that these professionals should be awarded but we are talking about basic rights and care. Every American should be entitled to healthcare and provided a good lawyer, not some barely trained person they give you when you cant afford a lawyer. This country is about the haves and the have not's but in the richest country on the planet that should not be the case. Before the recession I could never understand homelessness here but the recession opened my eyes. Greed is the reason why this is the land of the unequally free.

On to DC politics poor Marion Barry is again caught in a rut. a love triangle that may cost him more than he envisioned. Mr. Barry if you ever read this please know you cannot take city funds and just throw them at your girlfriends. Too many hard working people pay their taxes and it does not give you a right to manipulate the system. If there was a way to impeach a councilmember I would be first to sign. This is simply ridiculous and embarrassing. I look up to you as a skilled political figure. I don't know many people that can go from prison to the mayor's chair...and these days it seems to be the other way around. But your time is over. DC, especially ward 8 needs a leader that will use city funds in a correct manner and bring a more positive image to the city.

Oh by the way I celebrated my 24th Bday last Thursday. Shout out to all the LEO's!


Tuesday, June 9, 2009

Higher Education Comes At Big Cost


As many college graduates can testify, the costs of paying for college comes at a big cost. For those not lucky enough to have full scholarships and grants, the loans can build up. The average college student finishes college with $25,000 worth of debt. Welcome to the real world huh? However many do not finish college at all. Not because of academic probation or dropping out, but due to the lack of financial resources to pay.
Many first-year students report that they are concerned about finances, according to the 2009 National Freshman Attitudes Report, released by Noel-Levitz, the nation’s leading enrollment management consulting firm for colleges and universities. The study was based on 98,120 first-year students at 265 colleges and universities. The study found that less than half of the students (46 percent) said they had adequate financial resources to finish college, and 29 percent had financial difficulties that are very distracting or troublesome. First-generation students were particularly at risk for financial stress. Students at two-year institutions reported higher levels of financial anxiety than their counterparts at four-year institutions.

The fact is this problem was in place before this current recession hit us. I want to focus right now on the African American community. According to the most recent statistics, the nationwide college graduation rate for black students stands at an appallingly low rate of 42 percent. This figure is 20 percentage points below the 62 percent rate for white students. Im sure that financial resources plays a big part in these numbers.

College costs have increased over the years yet many family incomes have not increased, which has made the idea of even attending college only a dream for some. In this day in time everyone needs to have at least a bachelors or Associates degree. The high school diploma doesn't account for much these days.

I applaud the President for really trying to revamp the student loan system and trying to ease the costs of higher education on families. However there is much to be done and more help is needed. Many people are falling through the cracks and it doesn't help them or this country if we do not produce outstanding hardworking citizens to carry us on into the future.

Monday, June 1, 2009

Spike Lee vs. Tyler Perry


In one corner we have a movie legend, born in Atlanta, GA but claims Brooklyn, NY as his home. A Morehouse man and a prolific yet sometimes controversial actor, writer, film producer... Spike Lee.

In the other we have a native of New Orleans now residing in Atlanta, GA. A man making his name in the movie industry who literally built his success from nothing. He is well known for his plays and now for his movies and television shows. Tyler Perry. Two different styles of movie making but to add to it Spike Lee is not a fan of Tyler Perry.

In an interview
at the 14th Annual Black Enterprise Conference, Lee expressed his displeasure at "lazy" journalists who call his work "controversial," and the 'coonery' and buffoonery" of media aimed at black consumers, singling out the work of Tyler Perry. he continued, I know it’s making a lot of money and breaking records, but we can do better. … I am a huge basketball fan, and when I watch the games on TNT, I see these two ads for these two shows (Tyler Perry’s "Meet the Browns" and "House of Payne") and I am scratching my head. … We got a black president and we going back to Mantan Moreland and Sleep ‘n’ Eat?

On Tyler Perry and what the black consumer (really) wants to see:

We’ve had this discussion back and forth. When John Singleton [made Boyz in the Hood], people came out to see it. But when he did Rosewood, nobody showed up. So a lot of this is on us! You vote with your pocketbook, your wallet. You vote with your time sitting in front of the idiot box, and [Tyler Perry] has a huge audience. We shouldn’t think that Tyler Perry is going to make the same film that I am going to make, or that John Singleton or my cousin Malcolm Lee [would make]. As African Americans, we’re not one monolithic group so there is room for all of that. But at the same time, for me, the imaging is troubling and it harkens back to Amos n’ Andy.

Very thought provoking statements from Spike Lee. I agree with Spike to an extent. It is the consumer that has the final say. No one forces us to go and watch these films, yet at the same time we should be going out in droves to see movies like Malcolm X and Rosewood in order to facilitate dialogue amongst ourselves and understand our rich history which is being lost to this generation. Indeed Tyler Perry is a comedian and many comedians walk a thin line when it comes to entertainment and buffoonery. However a flux of black comedians and movie producers have overcome this barrier. Tyler Perry should consider the social implications of his productions and use his popularity as a platform for showing blacks in a positive role as well as providing some comedic relief. I would actually like to see Perry and Lee do some sort of movie together. Im sure it would provide the best of both worlds.

Wednesday, May 27, 2009

How I became an Episcopalian


Thanks to a fellow blog reader for inspiring this blog. A lot of people don't even know much about the Episcopal Church and if they do most assume its made up of a majority white parishioners. That couldn't be far from the truth. My first interaction with the Episcopal denomination came my freshman year of college. I had made a few connections in Atlanta before I left to attend college and one connection ended up being a staunch Episcopalian. When I did not have my room and board situated the people of this one particular parish, or church assigned to the AUC (Atlanta University Center) ie Morehouse, Spelman, Clark Atlanta, etc reached out a helping hand to a freshman in a strange city on a new journey. After my room and board was situated I started to attend services at what we affectionately call, the chapel. The Rev Gloria Bowden, who I wrote a previous blog about was chaplain at the time. She was the most caring individuals one could have known.
Anyway this was also a time where I was struggling with religion and homosexuality. I was born in the church and raised in the church, and I have family that serve as pastors and deacons in traditional black holiness and Baptist churches so I was aware of the you're going to hell argument. I wasn't the only one struggling with this that year and Gloria directed us all to some books and some priests that could answer our questions. Through my research I couldn't understand how one can spew hate from Gods pulpit and talk down about people that did nothing wrong to them. So the Episcopal church proved to be a place that was very open that gay people are made in Gods image like anybody else. The main idea that floats in my mind is God is Love. So on the two points that the church was helpful to me, and spritually nutured me I decided to become an Episcopalian. I went through the confirmation classes and learned more about the church rich history. I also learned that African Americans make up a big part of the church. One big change for me that I have come to appreciate is the order of service. There is no running around and falling out, not to say that it is wrong, but honestly I never saw myself doing all of that. Episcopalians praise God in decency and in order. Unfortunately before I was confirmed Gloria succumed to cancer. That hurt us all but her teachings and thoughts will live forever in those she touched, including me. Thats how I became an Episcopalian.

Tuesday, May 26, 2009

Children, the true victims of the recession


There are 16,000 homeless children in the United States.

I was watching CBS news a few nights ago and I was almost in tears at the end of a story of a mother and her 8 year old son whose home was foreclosed on and now live in a small motel room. The boy who seemed very intelligent for his age is dealing with the realities of life at an early age, which forces him to grow up way faster than he should. Today on CNN a similar story aired about a young teen girl who was striving to make it on her own living in a shelter with her father. Each of these children struck a tone in me. Their resiliency and their ambition to still make something of themselves. They want to attend school and have a career, despite their current situation. We all could learn a thing or two from these and other young people who are striving to make it during tough times. Although it is not their own fault for the situation they are in they look for better days, and still believe that they can be something in this world. They may not realize it but they have already made a difference or have had an impact on someones life by telling their stories.

THANK YOU!


A short video blog to thank all of you my blog readers and supporters.

Thursday, May 21, 2009

We Need Each Other


We need each other. That is the idea that I am becoming more aware of as of late. Human beings cannot face this world alone for the idea itself could drive one insane. God placed us here on this earth to make the best of our existence and that includes befriending one another. I have always looked to the eagle as my favorite bird. Independent, travels alone never in packs, and can very much survive different weather conditions. Yet even sometimes the eagle needs a helping hand, as they are now on the endangered species list. This is all to say no matter how independent we may be, exigent times do arise and everyone needs a helping hand. We may never know why God brings certain people in our lives or why we go through certain situations. However I do belief each day is a test and an opportunity to make one small difference in someone's life. Whether its sparing change to the needy, or giving time and energy towards the elderly, disabled or young children. These good deeds add up and over time, we all can make a lifetime of a difference.

Friday, May 15, 2009

Morehouse Atrocity


I came across this article on CNN.com and I must say I am completely utterly outraged at this. http://www.cnn.com/2009/CRIME/05/14/morehouse.justice/index.html

I was going to post a video blog, then a written blog but instead I am going to post a conversation I had with someone on this issue.

Read from bottom to top...

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Right its not a Morehouse problem directly but indirectly being that it was two Morehouse students, should be held to the highest standards.
Honestly even it wasn't Morehouse students where is the stand against black on black violence? Especially black men.
I don't think I can agree with you however about the 'extra stuff that Morehouse offers. Very true, education is the main reason why anyone attends college. However schools like Morehouse tend to nurture you in its own unique way, the idea of the Morehouse mystic you may have heard of. There is nothing wrong with living up to certain standards. The ideas of the renaissance that Morehouse men should be well read, well kept, etc is a good thing to live up to. It gives us not only an education, but a sense of humanity and decency.

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I agree the sentence was easy. But it is really not a Morehouse problem. And the renaissance mission is complete crap. I understand the meaning, however in the end of the day the purpose is education. Not the extra bull Morehouse has

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very true but on two points I must disagree. Point one the sentence for attempted murder was too lenient. The plea deal was not appropriate for the crime that was committed. Point 2 Morehouse, a school that boasts in making renaissance men did not live up to its name or rich history by allowing a student that attempted to murder another student continue his matriculation at the college. If anything the college should have been outraged at the lenient plea deal arranged.

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dear Morehouse bro

I disagree with you about the Morehouse shooting. Even though the student was in a fight. Nobody should be denied an education

Thursday, May 7, 2009

A Message From Morehouse


Eliminate young African American men, and what would police, jailers, social workers, and sports and entertainment moguls do for a living?

After all, young black men live to get in trouble, make babies, act out on stage, slam-dunk and dance in the end zone. That, at least, is the mass-media-influenced image that is accepted as “authentic” by people who should know better.

Someone who does know better is Robert M. Franklin, the president of Morehouse College, the venerable, all-male, historically black Atlanta college noted for building up and turning out generations of outstanding leaders such as Martin Luther King Jr., the theologian and writer Howard W. Thurman, and prominent D.C. lawyer James L. Hudson.

Franklin’s remarks to students at an April 21 town hall meeting on the campus didn’t make headlines. But excerpts from “The Soul of Morehouse and the Future of the Mystique” are making the rounds in African American homes and in social settings, thanks to the Internet and a communications phenomenon called the “black express,” which preceded and outlives the Pony Express.

Franklin’s speech focused on Morehouse students. But his message has caught on because it speaks to a larger community of up-and-coming young black men who are studiously ignored by arbiters of popular culture.

He translated the mystique into eight simple words:
“Renaissance men with social conscience and global perspective.”

Franklin said that after two years at the college, he had recognized a critical ingredient that bonds Morehouse men: a fundamental sense of discontent with mediocrity and nonsense. He encouraged the continued development of young black men “so sensitive to the presence of disorder, mediocrity and injustice that they cannot sleep well at night.” And he used the moment to take on what he views as the corruption that threatens the soul of young men and women “inside and outside the Morehouse village”: the young black male antics so celebrated by popular culture. That conduct, he suggested, represents the behavior of “the spiritually ill and disoriented.”

He demanded, that students instead embrace his “Five Wells”: well-read, well-spoken, well-traveled, well-dressed and well-balanced. And he highlighted three: reading, speech, and dress.

“I have seen too many students standing in lines wasting time. You should carry something to read and make good use of your down time. Read books, not just summaries of books. Choose an accomplished and prolific writer as a role model,” he declared. “But just as important — if not more — study grammar and syntax and the art of composition. Learn the power of accurately constructed sentences and well-positioned words.”

“It matters,” he said, “how well you write.”

Franklin's thoughts on diversity and decorum are required reading.

"As an all-male institution with the explicit mission of educating men with disciplined minds," said Franklin, "the great challenge of this moment in history is our diversity of sexual orientation."

"Why don't we," he asked the students, "use this opportunity to model something our community needs?"

"Straight men," Franklin said, "should learn more about the outlooks and contributions of gay men. Read a book by a gay author. Have an intelligent conversation with a gay neighbor." Franklin reminded the Morehouse students: "At a time when it was truly scandalous to have homosexual friends or associates, Dr. King looked to Bayard Rustin, a black gay man, as a trusted adviser. And, Malcolm X regarded James Baldwin, a black gay man, as a brilliant chronicler of the black experience."

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"To my straight brothers," he said, "diversity at Morehouse is an opportunity that can enrich your education if you are courageous enough to seize the opportunity. We cannot force you, but we invite you to learn from your environment."

On decorum and dress: "I have not desired to be overly prescriptive about this. You do not have to wear a tie and jacket to class, although no one would object to it. You're a college student. You can enjoy yourself while wearing comfortable clothing that respects the fact that you are part of a community of educated and ethical men."

But, he demanded, "in the presence of adult learners, do not sag your pants, do not show your undergarments. Do not wear do-rags, and do not wear baseball caps in class or in the cafeteria."

"Wear what you wish to off campus," he said. "But, while you are here on the ground where [Benjamin] Mays and Martin [Luther King Jr.] and Maynard [Jackson] walked, those items are off limits."

"If you want to be part of something rare and noble, something that the world has not often seen -- a community of educated, ethical, disciplined black men more powerful than a standing army -- then you've come to the right place."

To the knuckleheads and clowns who exploit their color while degrading their legacy, Franklin declared: "If you cannot follow the guidelines of a moral community, then leave."

Let the church say "Amen."

kingc@washpost.com


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A powerful speech from the President of Morehouse that covers many issues we have in the black community, particularly among black males.

As far as being a well rounded person I couldn't agree more. It is important that the black male redefine himself. In this day in time there is no excuse for to not self improve and self progress. With the election of a black American president we have to leave the crutch of blaming the white male alone. Black men must begin to think highly of themselves. For too long the black male has been told he is a nobody. Let us stop playing that part and acting another. It starts with simply caring about our destiny. Many of us come from broken homes and places many have nightmares about. but lets not let our past dictate our future. The future begins now.

On the topic of sexual orientation and acceptance I applaud the President for making this inclusive statement. I was very weary when I learned that Franklin was a minister. I was sure he would be against the gay movement on campus. It seems like he has been very accepting and willing to learn and work with the student body in bringing the campus together.


Tuesday, May 5, 2009

Black Unity (VIDEO BLOG)

U Need Space, REALLY?


So I think a lot of us have been in this relationship spot before...
-Person 1"I need space"
Person 2 "Space for what I thought we were doing good"
Person 1 "I just think we need time apart"
Person 2 "Umm I dont get it, but if you think so"

This sounds like a selfish decision. One made by one person and not even considering what their partner thinks or the implications a decision like that has. I have been there before because I believe there is a thing called "smothering" somebody however you gotta think why one needs this "space." Space to find another dude/girl? Space or have a reason to cheat without cheating? There is always more to the issue than meets the eye.
Communication is important in relationships. I know I am not perfect at communicating my feelings but when its something serious it is vital that a couple shares feelings, whether good or bad. So this space thing I dont fully understand. It creates a void and in all cases I have heard of space was virtually the end of that relationship. So talk about it and work it out, maybe instead of space u need more honest open communication.

Tell A Hook Up Story # 7- From the Club to the Bed


Its about time I did another one of these lol. Thanks for all the feedback.

Back in the day a young mind would leave the club and go right to the hook up. This is such a story. A Sunday night in Atlanta which means the Chaparral was the place to go. A few drinks in and the music poppin is the feel good sensation clubbing can bring. However this one night some dude was really checkin me out. One dance with that dude would have been enough but numbers were exchanged and suddenly it goes from there. After the club we talked outside and I almost nutted after seeing his mercedes Benz car. I knew this would be cute. So I followed him to Stone Mountain, farr from my spot near downtown Atlanta. His house was big just as I pictured it. He even had a fireplace in his bedroom. He was decent looking and had a decent body so it was definately on. It was truly a "vers" night as we both took and gave it up for a good hour maybe. You can call it a sleepover because the next morning I was treated to breakfast in bed. One of the best hook ups ever lol.

DC Council Recognizes Gay Marriage


Wassup all. You all KNOW I love to blog about the DC Government and today a historic thing was done. The Council voted 12-1 to recognize same sex marrages performed in other states. Of course the odd ball to vote against it was suddenly moral Marion Barry. Barry, who has been an ally for the gay community and even promising to support this issue FLIP FLOPED on the vote citing confusion. One of the two openly gay council members David Catania called Marion Barrys stance on the issue bigotry. This sudden albatross for Barry really made him an outcast.
Surprisingly Mayor Fenty stated he will sign the bill into law.

One would have thought during the discussion that Barry started the gay rights movement as he cited his work with the gay community since 1971. I am again ashamed of Barry and personally will write a letter to his office criticizing his change of vote on this civil rights issue.

Monday, April 20, 2009

Is Chivalry Dead?


Wassup people. Over the last few months I have come to question love, courtship and chivalry. Particularly in the gay community. It seems as if fu@#ing the next gorgeous guy is the main thing a gay person should achieve. But what happened to dating and actually getting to know someone? I dont particularly believe being gay is a sin but lust certainly is. We should try to appreciate someone for their character or their achievements/goals/ambitions. That is part of what being able to fall in love is about. Not just about someones looks or their dick size.
I guess there is always a ram in a bush and there is someone for everyone but lets hope that bush didnt burn down.

Thursday, April 16, 2009

Mayor Adrian Fenty why wont you talk to us?


For the last couple of years the mayor of the District of Columbia was a breath of fresh air from the previous Williams administration. Fenty ran as a young, zealous, energetic challenger and won the peoples hearts. As a former Council member he was well known for speaking his mind on issues and representing his ward of the city well.

Now as mayor he has really changed. He has become a mayor of seclusion and secrecy. No one knows where his travels take him. He was caught flying overseas and stated that the United Arab Emirates paid for his travels which was around $25,000. He was also caught taking a trip to where we now know was New York touring schools up there. The sad part is he was obscure and should have just been up front. It makes many wonder what is he hiding? But this is only a drop in the bucket in the plethora of issues I have with this mayor. He has shut down homeless shelters, cut funding to early education programs, did a U-turn on the DC Voting Rights Bill supporting the gun amendment and to top it off proposes that DC residents pay for their own street lights. Oh did I mention he is currently in a childish battle with the city council over baseball tickets he is withholding from them? Ludicrous
right? That's not all! His administration is being investigated about selling two DC fire trucks to some foreign country and he is being sued by a former employer who alleges that the mayor fired him because he called him out about the mayors two sons being too old to play in the DC Pee-Wee division. Fenty in response stated quote, " city personnel policies forbid him from talking about the issue.

Fenty really pulled the veil over our eyes but not anymore. It is time someone spoke up and made him stand for his actions. Hiding behind bureaucracy should not work in 2009. As a native DC resident I challenge the mayor to be honest with us and not work against us. Do not bilk the residents of the District of Columbia anymore! This is not a diatribe just an honest opinion from a political observer on the current state of our mayor.

Monday, April 13, 2009

NEW POSTS SOON!

Hello all, I took some time away but new posts to come. I hope everyone had a great Easter/Passover!

Monday, March 23, 2009

White-Black Wealth Gap Grows

As I read my daily news this morning this fact caught my eye. "For every dollar of wealth held by the average white family, a black family has only a dime." No big surprise but apparently the gap is getting bigger not smaller. Maybe this can be blamed to people of color being targeted for subprime loans? Blacks not investing into savings? The real change we need is economics 101. Its time we become smart about our money. I always have believed in the saying work smarter not harder. This can be true to this issue in so many ways. We need to become asset builders and not waste our money on cars and rims, clothes and $100 shoes. Honestly, where does it get us in the long run? True we have a lot of rich black people but when it comes to wealth we have to look way down the line to the Oprahs when it should be all of us.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Another Wrestling Death


Pro wrestling is a big thing to me. Many don't seem to understand why I like it so much. I have been a fan since the late 90's during the WWF's Attitude Era. Thing have changed a lot since then.

Wrestling is a male soap opera and really a chance to escape life. In many ways wrestling mimics are own lives. Like any form of entertainment, you watch it to enjoy it and feel a part of it. That's why I was saddened to hear of the death of yet another wrestler. Andrew Test Martin was just four days shy of his 34th birthday. I am going out on a limb here and say he probably died of some drug related problem. He was suspended from the WWE before for drug issues. However Test isn't the only one to fall to this problem.

Martin is the fourth former professional wrestlers to pass away in the Bay Area
in the past two years.

- Scott 'Bam Bam' Bigelow, 46, was found dead of a drug overdose in his Pasco
County home on January 19, 2007.

- Mike Alfonso - who wrestled under the moniker Mike Awesome - committed suicide
in his Hillsborough County home on February 17, 2007. He was 42.

- Brian Adams, 44, died of a drug overdose in his Tampa home in August 2007. He
performed under several names in his professional wrestling career, working
mostly as a tag-team wrestler.

In February 2003, Curt Henning, who wrestled as 'Mr. Perfect,' during his stint
with the WWE, was found dead in a Tampa hotel room. He was scheduled to wrestle
at the Fairgrounds the day he died; the official cause of death in that case was
determined to be cocaine intoxication.

And of course no one can forget the heinous Chris Benoit incident.

I hate it when people say "wrestling is fake." Yes it is scripted but those people put their bodies on the line when they perform. Yes those chair shots are not always real but like in anything mistakes happen and as a result their bodies take beatings. Im not justifying the drug use but we must come to understand what these wrestling entertainers go through. They spend most of their time away from their homes and families on the road entertaining us.

Friday, March 13, 2009

Your Degree versus My Degree


In these hard economic times, a degree seems to be the only way to attain a decent paying job. With that said, does it matter what school you got the degree from? I was having a conversation with someone on BGC which went as follows:

BGC'er: Sometimes I feel as tho I sold myself short by going to Morgan
Me: Imma tell you like my grandmother told me. Going to any school of higher learning is an accomplishment in itself. As long as you get that degree it doesn't matter what school name is on there. U just goaa make it work for u.
BGC'er: grandmother is very wise....I never really thought of it like that.


Now it would be nice if we all could have a Harvard or Princeton, even Morehouse on our walls but that isn't the case. So no one should ever sell themselves short because they think they chose the wrong school. It's all about what you make of it. Morehouse or Harvard didn't become great schools just because of the name. It was the students that put these school on the map.

Thursday, March 5, 2009

Is Being Gay A Sin?


I wrote this blog a couple of years ago on Yahoo 360 and I wanted to post it here since it is still relevant to many.

Finally what you all have been waiting for the blog on is being gay a sin. This series is expressing mostly christian views and beliefs on homosexuality. Alot of what you will read is a collection of views found on this issue. Enjoy!

These two topics have recently seemed to be mutually-exclusive. Members of the religious right say that one cannot be a good Christian and be homosexual while some members of the gay community say one cannot be an honest homosexual and Christian. Both of these statements are false and show a good deal of ignorance and fear on both sides of the issue, please read on.

Homosexuality is not unique in its status as an issue some people use to justify their hatred and/or repression of others. Throughout the history of this country, the world, and the church there have been other issues that were divisive in nature: anti-Sematism, slavery, and female clergy to name a few. http://members.aol.com/gunnyding/christ.htm

How many of you or people you know are left-handed? A minority - it is a biological variation, being right-handed is the "norm" and many lefties find that functioning in a right-handed world can be difficult. The early church actually shunned such people and attempted to force everyone to use their right hand as using one's left was considered to be against God's will and the work of the Devil. http://members.aol.com/gunnyding/genesis/genesis.htm

Many non-gay Christian leaders, speakers, and followers mistakenly use certain Biblical passages to outrightly condemn homosexuality. These passages: Sodom/Gomorrah, Leviticus, Letters of Paul and Jude are used out of context without proper understanding of their original language6 (see Below), their historical surroundings, their intended purpose, and their intended audience. These failures to simultaneously examine the part while holding the whole, provides for a misunderstanding or misinterpretation of The Word. http://members.aol.com/gunnyding/right/wrong.htm

http://www.gaychurch.org/Gay_and_Christian_YES/the_bible_christianity_and_homosexuality_justin_cannon.htm

Wednesday, March 4, 2009

In Memoriam: The Rev. Gloria Bowden


Today marks the 4th year since the passing of Rev. Gloria Bowden, someone who I had the pleasure to meet during my freshman year in college. Gloria as we called her, was one of the most open hearted people that I've ever met. When I needed to buy shower shoes and a robe for the campus showers, she gladly took me shopping to get the items. Many others around her can count of the countless times she was there when there was a need. During my second semester return back to college I called on her for a ride from the airport and although she could not pick me up herself she sent someone to get me. Apart from that, Gloria was one of the people who helped me find myself during those early years. She embraced us all as her kids, whether white or black, gay or straight, male and females alike. She is the main factor behind why I joined the Episcopal Church. Other than the glamour of the service, Gloria was the embodiment of what a true Christian should be like. Open and giving without asking in return, loving and caring, steadfast and true. Unfortunately Gloria succumbed to cancer at a young age 4 years ago today, right before my Episcopal confirmation. May the Lord let his countenance shine upon her as I know she is in a better place.

Friday, February 20, 2009

My Response to New York Post Cartoon

For the last few days everyone that I know have been asking me my opinion on the controversial political cartoon from the New York Post. At first I didn't make a big deal out of it, as people write their own editorial opinions everyday in the newspapers. However when I finally gave it a good look I thought that it was gory, despicable, lacks taste and substance, and racist. Other than the nasty picture of the chimp being shot with the bullet holes and the blood the caption above says it all "They will have to find someone else to write the stimulus bill." We all know president Obama has been the main supporter of the bill that just passed Congress. It was a direct attack of the president of the United States. This borderlines freedom of speech and a treat to the president. Im not even going to compare the racial implications between the chimp and President Obama.
I did some research on the creator of this mess and found that he is known for his controversial cartoons against gay people, women, you name it.
News Corp, the NY Post or someone needs to do some serious damage control.

George Mason Univ has Homecoming Drag Queen


So I was amazed as I saw on the news that George Mason University selected a drag queen as their Homecoming Queen. It is an amazing thing for a school to do and achieve some would say. I wonder how many schools will follow suit after this one.
The somewhat amazing thing is this happened in Virginia, a historically conservative state, is becoming more liberal by the hour.
I congratulate him for his bravery and his feerless/fierceness!

Wednesday, February 18, 2009

My Response to Anti -Gay Article in Morehouse Maroon Tiger


A Morehouse College student newspaper column titled “Is Gay the Way?” has caused a stir in Atlanta as well as the national blogosphere, with many gay and transgender activists accusing the writer of being homophobic. The opinion article, published Feb. 16 in The Maroon Tiger, questioned masculine norms at the all-male historically black college.

Gerren Gaynor, who wrote the column and serves as the paper’s associate opinions editor, told Southern Voice he believes his message has been misunderstood.

“In no way was my article an anti-gay piece,” said Gaynor, a sophomore English major.

“This article was exclusive about the way in which it affects the campus of Morehouse College and no other institution, not even the United States government … While I do agree that I went about my topic the wrong way — and please be advised that this was an article done over night for a weekly college publication — it is completely wrong to disregard the feelings of other students on campus, gay and straight, because every homosexual is not comfortable with seeing a man with feminine qualities,” he said. “Nowhere in my article do I attack gays. The article is strictly a critique on gender norms.”

In his column, Gaynor states, “It’s not so much that ‘straight’ men of Morehouse are uncomfortable with the gay lifestyle, but more so because that the lifestyle is constantly and robustly thrown in their faces. Does being a gay man include adopting the traits of a woman? Because if that’s the case, there’s a more fitting school, and it’s not an all-male institution.

“Over the years, despite social divergence on campus, the Morehouse community has done its share to both accept and adjust to the growing homosexual population. But don’t you think this has gone too far? A boy with a pocket book is far,” Gaynor wrote. “I’m all for being who you are. If you like women, go on and date women. If you like men, be my guest and date men. But if you are born a man, you should be just that — a man. If I have to look twice to tell if I’m looking at a man or woman on an all male campus, then something is tragically wrong …

“I’m not saying that having gay students at this institution damages the image of Morehouse, but as the only all male African American liberal arts college in America, we have a certain image to uphold and a man with hair weave just isn’t it.”


*****

As a product of Morehouse I am ashamed that this article appeared in a notable paper like the Maroon Tiger. I was someone that worked with Safe Space, Morehouse GB group that attempted to try to defeat these stereotypes. The writer needs to understand that he is living in a microcosm of a world. There are effeminate men in the world and if they choose to go to Morehouse or any other male institution then its their right. While I respect the authors opinion, I believe that he needs to listen and learn before he writes anything else with the word "Gay" in it. This type of writing draws division and promotes stereotypes. Morehouse with its rich legacy must overcome the battle of homosexuality by first acknowledging that homosexuals in every capacity attend Morehouse and that Morehouse must move past an idle stance on this topic by educating the student body and holding serious conversations to break these stereotypes that many have.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

V-Day/ Check out my newly designed blog page


Wassup all, I hope that your Valentines Day went well. I spent mine doing some things for me and family. This commercialized holiday shouldn't be the only day you tell your loved ones that you love them. It should happen 365 a year.

I don't really have much to say on Valentines day, and from reading other blogs it seems a lot of people are turned off by the day. Highly understandable, especially if you are single. I took this day to treat myself. I am my best commodity lol.

I also decided to launch this newly designed page which I will be tweaking for the next few days. Hope you like it!

Sunday, February 8, 2009

Real Talk: HIV AIDS EPIDEMIC IN DC and Black Males


So I woke up this morning to some startling news on the TV. One out of every twenty adults in Washington, DC is believed to be HIV-positive. All I could think was WTF. DC is a city with almost 600,000 residents so were talking almost half the city's population has HIV, roughly the same proportion of people as in the sub-Saharan region of Africa. In that number blacks make up the bulk of the reported cases.
According to federal health officials from the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), in 2006, more new HIV infections occurred among young black men who have sex with men than in any other segment of the U.S. population. That same year, black women acquired new HIV infections at 15 times the rate of white women.
The CDC conducted further investigation after the state Health Department reported a 20 percent increase in HIV-positive black men from 2004-05 to 2006-07. Among black men ages 17-25, the increase was 45 percent.

I am battling two issues. The AIDS problem in DC and the AIDS problem among black males. What are we doing? We are killing ourselves. First to address the DC AIDS problem. This is again another issue the DC Council should be tackling as opposed to fining someone for not cleaning the snow off their cars. Thank God for the private organizations like the Whitman Walker Clinic and local charities, churches and celebs that raise money for awareness of this issue.

Black males, we are the most infected with HIV in the country. It seems like we are killing ourselves off. We don't need the KKK anymore. If its not guns or violence its AIDS. Black males we need to wake up and see that we are dying off, soon to be an endangered species. The sad part is we are taking the females with us. We need to be upfront and honest with ourselves. If you are having relations without a condom, male or female then you need to get tested and pray you get a second chance to do it right. This can all be avoided by making the right decisions. However as a black male I can say that this is an innate problem. We need to think of ourselves as leaders and rulers and not as thugs or queers just trying to get by. Times are hard this is true and its 3x as hard for the black male however it takes a real person with the fortitude and will to survive the challenges and come out strong. Its time we pull our pants up, and start respecting ourselves and our people.

Saturday, February 7, 2009

More DC Talk: Snow Police


So the wonderful city that I reside in is now trying to make it a law that you must completely clean off your car before driving after a snow storm or face a stern warning. The original idea was to fine the law breaker $50 if caught driving with a car covered with snow. However that thankfully was knocked down.

I think this council has LOST it. DC is the first jurisdiction in the nation to impose this type of law. I wish the council would battle more troubling issues like hmm maybe more jobs for DC residents, school reform or maybe explain the 4 homicides in ward 8 during the inauguration. Seems like all the police were downtown and none patrolling the communities that needed them most. DC has been the laughing stock of the nation for too long. Its time we put someone in these offices (DC) that really want to make changes not just aggravate the people.

Wednesday, February 4, 2009

DC Council Considers ban on Blunts? WTF


http://www.nbcwashington.com/news/local/DC-Council-Considers-Ban-On-Blunts.html

As if the DC Council, the District of Columbia's governing legislative branch, didn't have anything else better to do they are considering a ban on blunts in order to prevent people from stuffing them for marijuana. The proposed ban is focused on teens that partake in this 'puff puff' transfer. Does the council really think this is going to curb teens from smoking? Is not marijuana already illegal? I think that they need to focus on improving our schools other than trying to play parents.

Sunday, February 1, 2009

Exposed! 25 Random Things About Me


Happy Sunday people! I know not many gay people are into sports like I am but if you are watching the Superbowl today you should know that the Steelers are going to win. I am a Cowboys/Falcons fan..I know two teams but who cares..however im sticking to the east coast team.

I have several blogs sitting in drafts waiting to be posted that I haven't finished. So there is a lot more to come. I have to say I have been reading some good blogs lately. Oh yea My Urban Tales series will continue as well with the stunt queen story which I have been getting many emails about.

Every so often I like to just write directly to the readers as opposed to having a main topic of discussion. Mostly to answer questions publicly raised in the blog comments. Today however I am giving you all more. Facebook has started this 15-20-or 25 random things about you chain where you post a number of random things about you that most people don't know. I have contemplated doing this since I am a private person and like to keep my skeletons in the closet if you will but 2009 is a time for honesty and transparency so here it is! I know there will be questions which i'll address in a separate blog lol.

1. Im extremely stubborn
2. My favorite cereal is Apple Jacks
3. I can play a video game for 24 hours straight
4. I like to gamble.
5. I just learned how to play spades last year.
6. I've had 6 cars in 5 years. (No accidents)
7. I never got a speeding ticket.
8.I have driven from DC to Atlanta back and fourth 16 times.
9. I have a weakness for trimmed bushy eyebrows
10. I love old school music
11. I've been called a "homo thug"
12. I have very few close female friends
13. I ran my high school like the mafia
14. My first pet was a rabbit
15. I love to cook
16. I've done more than enough webcam "shows"
17. I want to name my son after me KDJ III
18. I have never gone to the hospital
19. I once kicked a boy through a wall taking Tae Kwon Do
20. I was once a borderline alcoholic
21. I've only smoked weed once and never got high
22. I like my men short
23. I've been told I look like Chris Tucker and Mario
24. I've never understood femme lesbians..umm get a man?
25. I have to visit the ghetto in any city I go to..the real city

BONUS!!!
26. I've thought about being a professional wrestling sports commentator
27. I once wanted to own my own funeral home (Recession proof)
28. I have met Michael Jordan, Usher, Jermaine Dupree, Tyler Perry, Paula Abdul, Chris Tucker, Kareem Abdul Jabar, Terrence Howard, Andre 3000, Valerie Simpson, of Ashford and Simpson and almost met Michael Jackson and LL Cool J
29. I know im bound for greatness, just don't see the whole path yet
30. I hate the fact people look at me differently if I dress urban as opposed to wearng a suit.
31. Im handy at fixing things
32. I once went clubbin 7 days straight (revival)




Wednesday, January 28, 2009

Tell A Hookup Story #6


I know a lot of ya'll have been waiting for this story so let me get right into it. The stunt queen. Well as I said in the previous story we met one night off BGC and I went to the Hilton where he was staying. Nice hotel so I figured someone had some money. He seemed cool and quiet, kinda shy at first. I went up to the room and we had salutations. I sat down and he offered some drinks from the cooler I mixed a tonic and soda water. We chilled and talked until we fell asleep. He had two beds in the room and thats how we slept but by the morning only one bed was being used lol. The conversation the night before was what I call a get-to-know-you kinda convo. No sex was involved although we ended up in the same bed, just cuddling and more sleeping. We didn't get up till 11 am, but note we went to sleep probably around 5 am.

He then told me as we got dressed that he was a stunt queen. Since I am well versed in gay terminology I knew immediately what he meant. I said it was cool, but I was more curious with how the whole operation worked. I never got details, but listening in on a few convos with his "fam" gave me an idea. So as he checked out the hotel I met his gay family that was also in the scene. They seemed cool and we agreed to meet up later.

That would never happen as I came to learn a year later he was locked up for stolen checks found in his car during a stop for speeding in Alabama. We continued to talk for a while, even hooking u a few times and going to a bar or a club. As of this story though, we haven't talked in a while but I hope that he is trying to get his life together.

Tuesday, January 27, 2009

Being Gay Is A Gift From God?





Wow so I had to spin this blog off the gayte-keepers blog "Ready to male part II." Being that I am an Episcopalian and have been since 2005 I was not surprised to see that it was an Episcopal priest that made that comment on Oprah. It really has me thinking now about the subject. When I came into acceptance of my lifestyle ironically enough it was the Episcopal church that helped me affirm it. I struggled in my early days of college even trying to "turn straight" at one point. I think a lot of us go through that phase. Nonetheless The late Rev. Gloria Bowden God rest her soul was one who helped me out. I started to read books on this and study the concept of homosexuality and the church. I can almost write a dissertation on the topic but in all I have come to not only come to terms but also think its not a sin. I know a lot of people may disagree with it but thats how I feel.
I've been to many churches that spew hate from the pulpit and I think is this what Jesus meant by love your brother? People historically have used the Bible for their own personal gain. It was used to justify slavery, the denial of womens rights among so many things. Why don't we for once use the good book for its true purpose. Not to degrade and put down people but to lift people up.

Monday, January 26, 2009

Thank You to my Friends!


Hello all, I am dedicating this blog to all my friends around this country. Through many of my ordeals I have realized that there is a select few that stick around.

My brothers Carl, Dutch, Mike, Michael Scott, Perez and Durian. You all have come into my life at different phases and you have been the most honest and open hearted people I have met. I could say so much like Carl's open heart, Mike's open and funny spirit, Mike Scotts genuine concern and shared vernacular (inside joke) or Dutch's authentic country accent lol. I truly care for you all.

My bestfriend Jonathan- although we haven't talked much lately we have shared a lot of very intimate moments together. You wear my clothes and I wear yours even the expensive stuff lol. I even forgot you had my Billionaire Boys Club shirt. And you didn't care I wore your ferragamos. I could never get that burberry scarf to go with my shirt though lol. You have been there for better or worse and we have taken many road trips and talked about just about literally everything. Not many people know me as well as you do and our now 6 year friendship is something I cherish.

Close friends Adam, JB, Corey, Zedrick- You all have been in my life for quite a well and a few of you all have seen a very different side of me. Adam always happy to lend a ear and concerned about my well-beingg, JB what can I say we share a storied past yet we remain good buddies. Corey you are my buddy for life and I know that you are going somewhere as the next Quincy Jones. Zedrick we have been friends for a looong time. Although we have never met we have kept in communication for all this time. Even when I met your ex during his trip to ATL for Morehouses homecoming all he could talk about was you. You are a very unique person and reliable in a time of need.

Extended friends Mendoza, Reece, Tray, Jason. Mendoza you're my adopted brother through Perez. We had some great times together and you have a genuine heart. Reece like Mendoza you have a great heart. You both were dating dudes that were older than you and I tried to be there to listen to your stories. I know you all will find what u want in life. Tray I could write a book on our friendship. From BFF to barely even speaking to kinda talking again. We have come a long way and I know I royally screwed up our friendship. I was young and dumb and put money over friendship. I am glad you found it in your heart to forgive me. I mean we really had some FUN times. Its so funny because you're a republican, im a democrat, you wanna pledge Q and I want to pledge A yet we got a long so well.
Jason as the oldest dude I ever dated I saw that you have a genuine heart and selfless ambition. Although we went through some rough times and I had to let it go I appreciate your maturity and your "fatherhood" ways.

Sunday, January 25, 2009

Relationship No More


Hello all, I write this blog with an inept feeling. So as you may know my relationship has struggled over the last month. My now ex blames me for the majority if it. It was pretty much his way or the highway. He wanted so much damn attention that I could not give at this stage in my life. I have finally realized that I do not want a relationship until I have settled on some of my goals. I have come to see that being young and in a relationship is almost a joke unless you are both going in the same direction and apparently we were pulling different ways. Nonetheless I have no hard or ill feelings against him. He is still a good person and I hope he finds his true happiness. Its funny how we broke up, over yahoo messenger. No call (which he said he would do the previous night) just a mutual agreement to end it. I think one of the other problems most people have with relationships including us is how to make it last without becoming so stagnant and frankly boring. We had the greatest time together but away from each other it was hard. I felt like I was in a long distance relationship. We saw each other barely once a week because of his work schedule and the fact that he lived 30-45 minutes away. My car not being operational didn't help either. So all in all as much as I wish it could have gone on and the potential he showed because it's hard as hell to find a good dude, I didn't want to beat a dying horse.